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In Loving Memory of My Dear Mother,

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In Loving Memory of My Dear Mother,

By Augustine Osayande

On the serene morning of July 30th, 1988, as the sun cast its gentle rays upon the Earth, a tight-knit family basked in the tranquil serenity. Little did they know, a profound metamorphosis awaited, poised to reshape their existence. Within this affectionate family, I, the youngest among them, held a deep longing, yearning for a profound bond with my cherished mother. Remarkably, destiny appeared to sense this desire, and an extraordinary synchronicity enveloped us, setting the stage for a poignant and intimate meal that was about to unfold.

With anticipation in the air, the family gathered eagerly around the dining table in the quaint village of Oheze-Naka, nestled within the Orhionmwon Local Government Area of Edo State. Each member recognized the significance of this occasion, cherishing the opportunity to share a meal with their cherished matriarch. Laughter, tender conversations, and the melodious clinking of utensils created a symphony of familial love, interwoven with the aroma of the food that nourished not only their bodies but also their souls.

In that fleeting moment of unity, the bonds within the family grew stronger, etching memories that would forever resonate within their collective consciousness. They reveled in the simple joys of life—conversations filled with anecdotes, shared dreams, and mutual affection. Little did they know that this seemingly ordinary meal would become an indelible marker, standing as the final chapter of their shared culinary experiences.

However, as the sun ascended toward its zenith, casting elongated shadows in its wake, an unforeseen calamity shattered the tranquility that had enveloped their lives. The distant sound of urgency, carried by the wind, reached the ears of the youngest family member. It was the frantic shouts of their older brother, an unsettling chorus of desperation, urging them to hasten back home.

With a racing heart, the youngest rushed towards the source of the commotion, a cloud of foreboding descending upon them, casting darkness upon their world. Unbeknownst to them, the weight of tragedy hung heavily in the air. A sense of impending sorrow clung to their every step, growing more burdensome with each passing second. Their reality was about to be irreversibly shattered.

Upon arriving at their family abode, their brother’s grief-stricken and disbelieving face conveyed volumes before any words were spoken. The youngest listened, trembling, as the devastating news unfolded. Their beloved mother, Mrs. Ona Osayande, the beacon of warmth and love, had departed from this world, leaving behind an agonizing void that could never be filled.

The realization crashed upon them like an overwhelming tidal wave, stripping away the innocence and joy they had embraced just hours earlier. A profound sense of loss, anguish, and disbelief gripped their heart, leaving them numb, unable to comprehend the cruel twist of fate that had so abruptly snatched their mother from their lives.

Today, as I reflect on the passing of 35 years since you departed this earthly realm, emotions overwhelm me. Though the pain of losing you still lingers, I find solace in the countless beautiful memories we shared together. You were not merely a mother to me; you were my guiding light, my source of strength, and my best friend. Your unwavering love and support nurtured me, shaping the person I have become.

From the earliest moments of my life, you embraced the role of a loving mother with open arms, and your dedication knew no bounds. Your wise words echoed in my mind during times of struggle, providing me with the courage to persevere. Your gentle touch reassured me in moments of doubt, reminding me that I was never alone.

Mum, your selflessness and compassion were unparalleled. You devoted your life to caring for others, even those unrelated to you, showering us all with warmth and affection. Your love extended beyond the boundaries of our immediate family, reaching out to those in need and brightening their lives with your kind heart. You taught me the value of kindness, empathy, and generosity, traits that I strive to embody every day. Your acts of love were not confined to our home; you touched the lives of many, leaving a lasting impression on everyone fortunate enough to know you.

As the years have passed, I have come to appreciate the depth of your character even more. You faced adversity with grace, never allowing it to diminish the inner light that shone so brightly within you. Your resilience in the face of challenges serves as a constant reminder to persevere and never lose hope. Your unwavering faith in the goodness of the world inspired me to see beyond difficulties and embrace life with optimism.

Although I wish I could have shared more of my life with you, I take comfort in knowing that you continue to live on in my heart. Your love and spirit remain a guiding force, illuminating my path and reminding me of the importance of cherishing every moment. The lessons you taught me are etched into my very being, shaping my decisions and actions. Your memory fuels my determination to live a life that honors the values you instilled in me.

Today, I honor you, dear mother, by celebrating your life and the profound impact you had on me and those around you. Your memory will forever be etched in my soul, and I will strive to make you proud every day. As I navigate life’s challenges, I find strength in knowing that you are watching over me, guiding me from above. Your unconditional love continues to be a guiding light, comforting me in moments of darkness and encouraging me to reach for the stars.

Years have passed, and as the youngest child, I carry the weight of that fateful day forever marked by the fleeting happiness of our last meal together, mother. Through the depths of sorrow, I have emerged with a profound understanding of the fragility of life, holding tightly to the memories and lessons imparted by our dear mother. Though physically absent, her spirit will forever guide and inspire us, reminding us to embrace each passing moment.

Thank you, dear mother, for everything you were and still are to me. Though the years may continue to pass, the love we shared will endure for eternity. As I carry your legacy forward, I promise to pass on the love, compassion, and wisdom you bestowed upon me. Your spirit lives on in me, and as I embark on the journey of life, I am forever grateful to have had you as my mother. Until we meet again, may you rest in eternal peace, knowing that you are loved beyond measure.

***Augustine Osayande contributed this article through austinelande@yahoo.com

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UN Expresses Deep Pains Over Schoolgirls Abduction in Nigeria

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UN Expresses Deep Pains Over Schoolgirls Abduction in Nigeria

…Calls for Gender Equality and Empowerment

By: Michael Mike

The United Nations (UN) has expressed deep pain over school girls abductions in Nigeria.

UN Women Deputy Executive Director, Nyaradzayi Gumbonzvanda who was in Nigeria on official visit at the weekend while expressing the concern of the international body over the continued kidnappings in schools in the country, also called for gender equality, the empowerment and rights for all women and girls in Nigeria.

Gumbonzvanda said she personally feels the pains as a mother of what the abducted children are going through.

She said: “And at the outset, to also express as a mother, as a leader, my deep pain with the abductions that we still continue to see of our daughters. I needed to express that at the outset.

“I therefore join my voice to call for the release of the abducted daughters of this nation. As a mother, I even feel my stomach churning when I wonder, what did she eat today? Where did she sleep tonight? Was she inappropriately touched? What are her fears and her traumas? And I also think of her community, their communities, and their families. And therefore reaffirm that every girl must have a right and does have a right to security and to education.”

She added: “Violence against women and girls remains pervasive in this country, Nigeria, with the abductions that I have mentioned and the attacks on schoolgirls highlighting the urgent need for safety in schools, safety in our homes, in our communities, and online.”

She explained that “This is critical because globally, nearly one in three women experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime.”

Gumbonzvanda also decried the alarming rate of Technology-Facilitated Gender Based Violence, calling for proper protections for the girl child.

She said: “A critical area of concern remains technology-facilitated gender-based violence, which is rising globally and nationally. Between 16 percent and 58 percent of women worldwide experience some form of online or technology-facilitated gender-based violence, depending on the region.

“Globally, one in three women experience physical or sexual violence. And technology-facilitated abuse affects up to 58 percent of women, according to our UN Women data of 2022.”

The UN Women official also noted that UN Women is supporting the governments and stakeholders in strengthening the policy frameworks, enhancing digital safety, and promoting accountability for online harms.

She however stressed the importance of a legal framework to address the menace.

According to her: “Effective legal frameworks and inclusive governance are essential to reversing this trend. My discussion with ambassadors accredited to Nigeria also underscored the importance of enhanced regional cooperation and particularly across the Sahel and West Africa, where women’s leadership and peace-building efforts are indispensable for stability and for sustainable development.”

Gumbonzvanda commended the Nigeria’s National Assembly’s strong commitment to strengthening legislation that protects women and girls in advancing measures that expand women’s participation in governance.

She also commented on women’s representation at the National Assembly which stood at 3.8 percent, far way below the global average of 27.2 percent according to the Inter-Parliamentary Union data of 2025.

She urged the country to adopt the “Legislative reforms such as affirmative action, such as quotas, and the proposed special seats which are globally recognised to accelerate women’s participation.

She said: “These measures are not just there to strengthen democracy, but also to ensure rule of law in that budget reflects the needs of half of the population.”

She therefore sees the ongoing debate on the special bill as positive, stating that: “Therefore, I am really excited to be here in this country, as the country engages deeply and boldly and confidently on the special seats bill. And I’m looking forward to the day when it will be passed. I do, in every country, because also as the UN, special measures are part of standards, are part of international standards.

“And equally, we have SDG 5 on women in decision making, which aims for gender parity by 2030. So the efforts in Nigeria are a good progressive approach towards that goal. Economic empowerment is vital for sustainable development.”

On the need to empower women, Gumbonzvanda stressed that women make up over 70 percent of Nigeria’s agricultural labour force, yet face barriers to land, to credit, to markets.

She noted that: “Gender responsive budgeting and investments in women farmers and entrepreneurs can unlock growth and resilience. Closing gender gaps in labour participation could add up to 12 million to global GDP by 2025, according to the data from McKinsey, proving that empowering women is smart economics.

“Empowering women economically is not charity. It is innovation, it is development, it is a benefit that extends the entire community. Some of us are sitting here because our mothers in the rural areas were empowered to be able to send their goats to market and be able to pay school fees, that we’re able to give soap and sugar, because our mothers were able to get a little bit of income in the family.

“So economic empowerment is not just about the national economic data. It’s about life, everyday life in our communities. To sustain and scale progress, predictable and innovative financing is essential.”

Speaking on her visit, which is the first to Nigeria, the UN official said it was to deepen partnership, reinforce national leadership, and accelerate collective action to advance gender equality, the empowerment and rights for all women and girls in Nigeria.

She noted that the visit has allowed her to witness the tangible impact of UN Women’s Working Communities.

Gumbonzvanda said: “ Over the past days, I have engaged with various stakeholders and partners. I’ve engaged with the members of the National Assembly, the diplomatic partners, the United Nations country team, civil society organisations, and community women who are driving progress at the very, very grassroots level.”

She also narrated her experience in Kwali, a community in the Federal Capital Territory, where she joined the women to peel cassava and also to partake in processing it into flour (food), saying “ and how we enjoy it with Ogusi soup. It was a very important experience for us to see how we can actually do agro-processing in communities, but to understand what it takes and what is needed to provide that transformation that is needed.”

She also revealed that the targeted investments to improve women’s lives in agro-processing is very important.

“It was also very clear that the investments to improve economic empowerment at community level would reduce the time burdens, would expand income-generating opportunities, and would also unleash the potential of women,” she said.

She explained that: “Globally, access to safe water and sanitation reduces the time women spend on unpaid care work. This is so important for us that we invest in water and sanitation.

“And that when women have greater access to water and sanitation, it enables them greater participation in economic activities.

“These are practical examples of how empowering women strengthens communities and enhances resilience as we turn policy into lived experiences in our communities.

“At the UN system, I have interacted with our colleagues in the UN system and have reiterated UN Women’s commitment to coordinated multi-sectoral action, particularly on gender-based violence prevention, on women’s economic empowerment, and on advancing the women’s peace and security agenda in Nigeria.”

She assured Nigeria women that the “UN Women will continue to mobilise partnership across governments, development partners in the private sector, to ensure that front-line organisations and national institutions have the resources required to deliver lasting change. Nigeria has demonstrated strong leadership and a clear commitment to advancing the rights of women and girls. UN Women stands ready to continue to support these national efforts, working with all partners in translating commitments to measurable transformation results.”

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VP Shettima Departs Abuja For Abidjan To Represent President Tinubu At Alassane Ouattara’s Inauguration

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VP Shettima Departs Abuja For Abidjan To Represent President Tinubu At Alassane Ouattara’s Inauguration

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Vice President Kashim Shettima has departed Abuja for Abidjan, Cote D’Ivoire, to represent President Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the inauguration of Mr. Alassane Ouattara for a fourth term in office as President of that country.

Senator Shettima is expected to join other leaders across Africa and beyond to witness activities lined up for the swearing-in ceremony scheduled to hold on Monday December 8, 2025 at the Presidential Palace in Abidjan.

Quatara was re-elected for a fourth term in office on October 25, 2025 as President of Côte d’Ivoire, a West African country that shares cordial diplomatic ties with Nigeria.

Both nations collaborate significantly within ECOWAS and the African Union on security, trade, and development, formalized by a Bi-National Commission and numerous agreements covering areas like anti-trafficking, agriculture, and digital economy, with strong informal trade and significant Nigerian diaspora in Côte d’Ivoire, fostering deep bilateral economic and social connections.

The Vice President is accompanied by HE Omar Aliyu Touray, President of ECOWAS Commission; Senator Abubakar Sani Bello, Chairman, Senate Committee on Foreign Affairs and Hon. Usman Zannah, member representing Kaga/Gubio/Magumeri Federal Constituency in the House of Representatives.

The Vice President is expected back in Abuja at the end of the inauguration ceremony.

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Nigeria deploys fighter aircraft to Benin Republic as coup unfolds

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Nigeria deploys fighter aircraft to Benin Republic as coup unfolds

By: Zagazola Makama

The Nigerian military has deployed fighter aircraft to the Benin Republic following Sunday’s military coup that toppled President Patrice Talon, reliable security sources have confirmed.

The aircraft, which took off from Lagos earlier on Sunday, were sighted operating within Beninese airspace as Nigeria intensifies surveillance and monitoring of the rapidly evolving political and security situation in the neighbouring country.

Sources told Zagazola Makama that the deployment is part of Nigeria’s precautionary measures to assess regional security implications and protect its national interests amid uncertainty in Cotonou.

“The aircraft have already arrived in Benin Republic. Nigeria is closely monitoring developments and evaluating potential risks,” one senior security official said, noting that the move was not an offensive operation but a strategic response to unfolding events.

The takeover in Benin was led by Lt. Pascal Tigri, who announced the dissolution of state institutions and assumed full military control. The coup adds to the growing list of unconstitutional government changes in West Africa, raising concerns over regional stability.

The coup leaders in Benin, the Military Committee for Rebuilding, issued the following statement: The November 2025 constitution has been suspended, all institutions have been dissolved, political parties’ activities have been suspended until further notice· Benin’s land, sea, and air borders are closed until further notice.

Nigeria shares a long and porous border with Benin, making political instability in the country a direct security concern for Abuja.

As of the time of filing this report, the Nigerian government has not issued an official statement, but military sources said surveillance will continue “until the situation becomes clearer.”

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