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By:Bodunrin Kayode

Battling with the many fights of teenagers during the long vacation

It’s a long holiday, and a lot of pressure is on the parents to maintain the stability of the home. Some parents are still battling with under-10 children who are still malleable to discipline, while others are dealing with those between the ages of 13 and 17. These guys between the ages of 13 and 17 are the most difficult because if they have shown most or all the signs of puberty, you may have to apply special communication skills to be able to appeal to their senses. This is the most difficult period of growing up in the history of mankind because some can grow taller than their parents and begin to feel on top of the world, defying the same parents who raised them up. Others remain average, while the rest remain short. But regardless of our religious background, we must remain focused to give them the best even as they prepare to return to school in two weeks.

Expected genetic manifestations that can hunt them for life

Our kids come out with different genetic traces that either hunt them for the rest of their lives or injure them if you do not read between the lines and stabilize them accordingly. Stability in our climate is like medical therapy, and it is mostly done by consistently communicating with them to understand the difference between wrong and right. That means establishing a hierarchy within their ranks where the oldest will supervise the younger ones. Even if the oldest is just four feet tall, he should be the prefect in the house when you people are not around during the long holiday. If the younger ones are far taller than he or she is, then you have a plate full in your house.

In most cases, the tall ones actually begin to bully the shorter ones because of their height and better reach in terms of blows. Stammerers are also mocked by siblings.

I actually interceded in one family recently where a tall junior brother of about 6,2″ at only 17 was always bullying his senior one, who was just 4 feet 5″ at 19. And their resultant fights were always brutal because the most senior of the four kids in the family would try to fight back using weapons like sticks and stones to assert his authority, sometimes wounding their sisters, who always tried to mediate. God help you if you are not around to separate such teenagers when they tango. These people are neither adults nor kids. Just in their own world or adolescence. “Abami edas,” strange beings using Felas language

If that shorter teenager grows up without much feel-good stabilizing love pep talks, he may build a defensive wall around himself, prepared for every tall person bully or not that comes his way to try him like his brother did when they went through teenage syndrome from the age of 13 to 19. He is not likely going to forget what he saw as humiliation from his taller little ones who “looked down” on him when they were being raised by their parents for being too short. And for the rest of his or her life, he or she will always harass those taller than him or her for no reason. I mean, no reason at all. If he turns out to be a public professional like a teacher, labor leader, or even a journalist, God help newsmakers and his colleagues; his rants will always announce his presence.

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If he decides to stabilize and forget some of his past when it’s time to take a wife and takes his friends advice to marry a taller woman so his kids can be tall, that woman may be in hellfire on earth because each time she talks to him and raises her voice, she may become a terrible punch bag who must be cut down to size, and there would not be any stability in that marriage.

Tall-short syndrome breeds inferiority and superiority complexes.

When your kid goes through these challenges unmanaged, the inferiority complex will take charge. And that is about the most dangerous psychological sickness that affects people with deficiencies that were not stabilized when they were kids. No matter what anyone does, he will always remain inferior to the rest and accuse others of feeling pompous. An unstabilized mind will always accuse anyone without his or her deficiencies of being arrogant. Watch out for these things in your kids and work on them even if you are not always around. Pray for them daily.

The only solution to this kind of psychological lifelong crisis is to start working psychologically and spiritually very early in their individual lives by making them run away from the “inferiority complex” if they are too short or embarrassingly tall, like 7 feet plus. Lure such a kid into basketball and watch the glow in his eyes.

If you fail as a parent to do this and rely only on the God factor, you may have unstable minds let loose on the rest of us, running everyone down simply because of their perceived dangerous inadequacies. Inferiority complexes are more dangerous than half education. It kills as much as the superiority complex, which may be manifested by some of those tall ones. But that does not mean that there are no stable, extremely short or tall people whose parents really worked on them using the usual native intelligence available to Africans before the coming of psychology. There are many of them who are not too extrovert or introverted. They are just normal people like the rest of us. If I were you, I would stop praying for schools to open and drive all of them back to the correctional center called a boarding home. Enjoy the noise in the house while it lasts. You will not know the value of that noise from the TV until you visit friends who never had kids and are still expecting.

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UMTH: Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo, Eight Years of Productive Leadership

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UMTH: Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo, Eight Years of Productive Leadership

By Balami Lazarus

Every stage of human life opens a new chapter of experience, responsibility, and opportunity. In positions of leadership, these opportunities become particularly significant because they provide individuals with the power to influence institutions, improve systems, and contribute meaningfully to society. For Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo, his eight-year tenure as Chief Medical Director of the University of Maiduguri Teaching Hospital (UMTH) represented an important period of service, innovation, and institutional transformation.

Prof. Ahidjo served as the eighth Chief Medical Director of UMTH from 4 September 2018 to 4 September 2026. During this period, he used his professional knowledge, administrative experience, and leadership position to advance medical services, improve healthcare delivery, and provide modern infrastructure and equipment for the hospital. His tenure was marked by a clear determination to strengthen UMTH as a center of healthcare, medical education, research, and professional development.

The conclusion of his tenure was commemorated through a weeklong program of activities in Maiduguri. The program brought together government officials, medical professionals, traditional rulers, academics, hospital staff, and members of the public. It included project commissioning, conferences, lectures, inspections of medical facilities, a book launch, and an award ceremony. These events provided an opportunity to assess the achievements of the outgoing Chief Medical Director and to celebrate his contributions to the development of UMTH.

As a consultant interventional radiologist, Prof. Ahidjo brought specialized medical knowledge to the administration of the hospital. Interventional radiology is a field that uses imaging techniques to guide minimally invasive procedures for the diagnosis and treatment of diseases. It requires advanced technology, specialized training, and strong institutional support. Prof. Ahidjo’s professional background therefore influenced his vision for improving not only radiology services but also the general quality of healthcare available at UMTH.

One of the significant achievements associated with his tenure was the advancement of interventional radiology. During the period under review, UMTH hosted the first national conference of the Association of Radiologists in Nigeria in northern Nigeria. The conference brought together experts in radiology from Europe, Egypt, Asia, and Nigeria. Its location in Maiduguri demonstrated the growing importance of UMTH as a center for medical learning and professional exchange.

The conference also created an opportunity for radiologists and other healthcare professionals to examine new developments in medical imaging and minimally invasive treatment. Participants discussed ways of improving standards, expanding training, and strengthening the practice of radiology in Nigeria. By facilitating such a gathering, UMTH positioned itself as an institution capable of hosting major national and international medical events, despite the challenges associated with operating in the region.

Infrastructure development was another important feature of Prof. Ahidjo’s leadership. Among the projects commissioned during the handing-over activities were the Fertility Care Centre, the En-Suite Maternity Complex, and the Animal House. These facilities are relevant to both clinical services and medical research.

The Fertility Care Centre is expected to support individuals and families requiring specialised reproductive health services. Its establishment represents an important step in responding to the medical and emotional needs of couples facing fertility challenges. By providing services within the hospital, patients may have greater access to professional care, counselling, diagnosis, and treatment.

The En-Suite Maternity Complex is also significant. Maternity services require safe, comfortable, and properly equipped environments for mothers and newborns. A modern maternity facility can improve the quality of antenatal care, delivery services, postnatal care, and emergency obstetric interventions. In a region where maternal and child health remain important public health concerns, the development of such a facility is a valuable contribution to healthcare delivery.

The commissioning of the Animal House further reflected the hospital’s interest in research and medical education. Selected animals kept in the facility will be used by medical experts and researchers for experiments and other approved scientific activities. Research facilities of this kind help institutions generate knowledge, test ideas, and train future medical professionals. They can contribute to the development of evidence-based medicine and improve the capacity of healthcare workers to address complex medical conditions.

Prof. Ahidjo’s leadership was not limited to buildings and equipment. His tenure also encouraged academic and intellectual activities. One of the major events during the transition program was the 84th inaugural lecture of the University of Maiduguri. The lecture was delivered by Prof. Ahidjo under the chairmanship of Prof. Muhammad Laminu Mele, the vice-chancellor of the university.

The lecture, titled “Interventional Radiology in Nigeria: The Journey So Far, My Aspirations, and My Visionary Concept,” provided an opportunity for Prof. Ahidjo to reflect on his professional journey and his aspirations for the future of interventional radiology in Nigeria. He discussed the progress made in the field, the challenges that remain, and the need for continued investment in specialized training and modern medical technology.

His vision included the development of interventional radiology and the training of more radiologists in Nigeria. This emphasis on human capacity development is particularly important. Medical infrastructure can only achieve its full purpose when trained professionals are available to operate, maintain, and effectively use it. By promoting education and professional development, Prof. Ahidjo highlighted the need to combine physical infrastructure with knowledge and expertise.

The inaugural lecture also demonstrated the connection between hospital administration, professional practice, and academic responsibility. As a medical specialist and university professor, Prof. Ahidjo was able to bring together his experience in clinical medicine, teaching, research, and hospital management. His public presentation of these ideas reinforced the role of teaching hospitals as institutions that must provide healthcare while also producing knowledge and training professionals.

Another notable event was the launch of the book titled “Duty and Courage: The Story of Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo,” written by Dr. James Bwala. The book documented aspects of Prof. Ahidjo’s professional and administrative journey. Its title captured two qualities that are essential in public service: a commitment to responsibility and the courage to act in difficult circumstances.

The book launch, like the other activities, allowed colleagues, staff, and members of the wider community to reflect on the impact of Prof. Ahidjo’s leadership. It also ensured that the experiences and lessons of his tenure would be preserved for future generations. Institutional history is important because it helps succeeding leaders understand the decisions, sacrifices, challenges, and achievements that shaped an organization.

The handing-over ceremony attracted prominent personalities, including the Governor of Borno State, Babagana Umara Zulum; the Shehu of Borno, Abubakar Ibn Umar Garbai; ministers; emirs; members of the National Assembly; and other senior government officials and community leaders. Their presence demonstrated the importance of UMTH to Borno State and the wider northeastern region.

The hospital serves a large population and remains a vital institution in the provision of specialized healthcare. Its role extends beyond Maiduguri because patients from other parts of Borno State and neighboring states depend on its services. Any improvement in the hospital’s infrastructure, equipment, professional capacity, and administrative structure therefore has implications beyond the institution itself.

The climax of the weeklong program was the presentation of awards and recognitions to current and former staff members who served under Prof. Ahidjo. This gesture acknowledged the fact that institutional progress is rarely the product of one individual. Although a chief executive provides direction, the achievement of organizational goals depends on the commitment of doctors, nurses, pharmacists, laboratory scientists, technologists, administrators, cleaners, security personnel, and other workers.

Recognizing staff members also promoted a culture of appreciation and teamwork. Employees who feel valued are more likely to remain committed to their responsibilities. In this regard, the awards ceremony was not only a farewell activity but also a reminder that the progress of UMTH rests on collective effort.

Prof. Ahidjo formally handed over the administration of the hospital on 3 September 2026, one day before the official gazetted end of his tenure. In his brief speech, he expressed appreciation to the hospital community for its support. He then handed over the institution, including its staff, structures, equipment, and facilities, to Dr. Abubakar Mohammad Abiso, the Acting Chief Medical Director.

Dr. Abiso had previously served as Chairman of the Medical Advisory Committee and is a consultant family physician with extensive medical and administrative experience. In his response, he thanked Prof. Ahidjo for considering him suitable for the position. His words reflected both humility and an awareness of the responsibilities associated with leading the hospital.

One of the most symbolic moments of the transition occurred when Dr. Abiso asked how Prof. Ahidjo would be remembered. He answered by naming the Interventional Radiology Centre after the outgoing Chief Medical Director. The decision was appropriate because it connected Prof. Ahidjo’s legacy with the medical specialty to which he devoted his professional life and which he promoted during his leadership of UMTH.

Naming the center after him also created a permanent institutional reminder of his contributions. It ensured that future staff, students, patients, and visitors would encounter his name in a place associated with innovation, specialized care, and medical advancement. More importantly, it placed his legacy within the continuing work of the hospital rather than treating it as a closed chapter.

The end of Prof. Ahidjo’s tenure provides an opportunity to consider the meaning of productive leadership in a teaching hospital. Such leadership involves more than managing daily operations. It requires strategic planning, resource mobilization, staff motivation, professional competence, accountability, and the ability to respond to the healthcare needs of the community. It also requires leaders to build systems that can continue to function after their departure.

By commissioning new facilities, promoting medical conferences, supporting research, delivering an inaugural lecture, and encouraging professional development, Prof. Ahidjo contributed to several dimensions of institutional growth. 

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UMTH: Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo, Eight (8) Years of Productive Leadership

By: Balami Lazarus

Every stage of man is a new chapter of life experiences that manifest itself in rights, privileges, and opportunities to add value to humanity.

Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo has used the privileges and opportunities of his positions, most especially that of Chief Medical Director (CMD) of the University of Maiduguri Teaching Hospital (UMTH), for the past eight (8) years to provide and facilitate developments in medical and healthcare delivery with infrastructures, medical materials, and equipment of international standards for the hospital in his eight (8) progressive years.

NEWSng has been there all these years. And here we are, once again in Maiduguri to cover the weeklong packed handing-over ceremony to mark the end of Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo’s eight-year tenure as the 8th CMD since the inception of the hospital over 40 years ago.

Each day was full of activities to bid him farewell. Visitors and guests were always engaged in either commissioning of projects, conferences, lectures, book launches, or inspections of medical facilities/centers, asking questions on how Prof. Ahidjo did it.

The erstwhile CMD Prof. Ahidjo is a consultant interventional radiologist whose eight years of exemplary and visionary leadership began on the 4th September 2018 and end on the 4th September 2026.

There was the first-ever national conference of the Association of Radiologists in Nigeria (ARIN) in the north to be held in Maiduguri at UMTH, where experts in radiology from Europe, Egypt, and Asia met to improve on the standards of this branch of medical science.

There was a book launch “”titled “Duty and Courage”: The Story of Prof. Ahmed Ahidjo,. by Dr. James Bwala.

as part of the activities of the handing-over ceremony that was graced by the state governor, Babagana, Umara Zulum; ministers; Shehu of Borno, Abubakar Ibn Umar Garbai; emirs; and some members of the National Assembly, among other high government officials and personalities.

There was also commissioning of the Fertility Care Centre, En-Suite Maternity Complex, and Animal House, where some selected animals shall be kept to be used for experiments by the hospital medical experts/researchers.

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By: Balami Lazarus

Universities are major parts of nation building. its growth, progress, and developments, among other human endeavors. They are known for adding value to human capacity in the realm of intellectual/skills productivity. Therefore,

Universities are playing significant roles in research and development (R&D).

Their core aims are translated into their objectives of teaching, learning, and character, knowing fully well that universities are the citadel of higher levels of educational attainment a country needs.

Whereof, universities are faced with volumes of challenges, both academic and non-academic, laying more in academic works and activities with demands in teaching, learning, and research.

When NEWSng visited the founder of Isaac Balami University of Aeronautics and Management (IBUAM), Engr. Isaac David Balami, recently in Abuja in an attempt to follow up with the progress of this particular specialized private university, the only specialized academic institution in aeronautics and aviation management in academic disciplines/practicalities, including techniques and skills in aviation fields.

It is on record that IBUAM is the only private specialized university that trains and provides students with academics, practicals, techniques, and skills in aeronautics engineering fields and aviation management in sub-Saharan Africa.

Without prejudice, NEWSng has a fair understanding of the challenges our universities are faced with and are struggling to meet.

Be as it may, universities, whether specialized or not, are institutions for serious academic and intellectual studies where large funds are needed to run, manage, and cater to her teaching, learning, and research, including other services. In consideration of this, NEWSng commends kudos to IBUAM.

“I give glory to the Almighty. And let me state here with sincerity of purpose, appreciation, and gratitude to the Borno State Government under my able, progressive, and foresighted governor, Engr. Babagana Umara Zulum, who has made IBUAM see the light of day by her quantum support of sponsoring over 30 native students for various courses at IBUAM. The scholarship package runs in billions of naira. My gratitude also goes to well-meaning Nigerians who stood with me to make IBUAM a reality and the first of its kind on the African continent.”

NEWSng was further informed by the engineer. Isaac Balami, the IBUAM is not a conventional university where you have more academic theories and fewer practicals.

“Let me state here categorically that in IBUAM we are for both academic works and more practical applications. The aviation industry is all about safety, perfection, and security applicable to IBUAM in her courses. With this in mind, our challenges are more than a handful. The management spends hundreds of millions for just services. We are

We’re doing our best to see to the growth of this university. “Most people out there admired universities and their physical structures, including their names, without a second thought. “The aviation industry and its businesses the world over are not a tuft for unserious-minded businessmen or investors; everything surrounding the industry is all about money. Come to think of having a related academic institution (university) like IBUAM, whose objective is to produce graduates of international standard for best practices.”

Take for instance, a university with just three faculties: Sciences, Arts, and Management, with only 300 students. I suppose that, in your opinion, such a university is not impressive.

Thus, if you begin to consider what it takes to run and manage a university in terms of personnel, especially lecturers; facilities; tools; materials; and equipment, you will be shocked.

This has made NEWSng a reason why specialized universities like IBUAM need large funds to function. “You need more than two or three airplanes on the ground for practicals… excluding tax, insurance, and other charges to bring them.”

Reportedly, the challenges faced by a specialized university are much greater than what is commonly heard: “With the collective support of IBUAM management, we are progressing.”

The founder, Engr. Isaac David Balami, said that to bring the attention of the university closer to the people, the management has proposed to have an IBUAM liaison office in Abuja.

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