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Binocular: Battling with the many fights of teenagers during long holidays

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By:Bodunrin Kayode

Battling with the many fights of teenagers during the long vacation

It’s a long holiday, and a lot of pressure is on the parents to maintain the stability of the home. Some parents are still battling with under-10 children who are still malleable to discipline, while others are dealing with those between the ages of 13 and 17. These guys between the ages of 13 and 17 are the most difficult because if they have shown most or all the signs of puberty, you may have to apply special communication skills to be able to appeal to their senses. This is the most difficult period of growing up in the history of mankind because some can grow taller than their parents and begin to feel on top of the world, defying the same parents who raised them up. Others remain average, while the rest remain short. But regardless of our religious background, we must remain focused to give them the best even as they prepare to return to school in two weeks.

Expected genetic manifestations that can hunt them for life

Our kids come out with different genetic traces that either hunt them for the rest of their lives or injure them if you do not read between the lines and stabilize them accordingly. Stability in our climate is like medical therapy, and it is mostly done by consistently communicating with them to understand the difference between wrong and right. That means establishing a hierarchy within their ranks where the oldest will supervise the younger ones. Even if the oldest is just four feet tall, he should be the prefect in the house when you people are not around during the long holiday. If the younger ones are far taller than he or she is, then you have a plate full in your house.

In most cases, the tall ones actually begin to bully the shorter ones because of their height and better reach in terms of blows. Stammerers are also mocked by siblings.

I actually interceded in one family recently where a tall junior brother of about 6,2″ at only 17 was always bullying his senior one, who was just 4 feet 5″ at 19. And their resultant fights were always brutal because the most senior of the four kids in the family would try to fight back using weapons like sticks and stones to assert his authority, sometimes wounding their sisters, who always tried to mediate. God help you if you are not around to separate such teenagers when they tango. These people are neither adults nor kids. Just in their own world or adolescence. “Abami edas,” strange beings using Felas language

If that shorter teenager grows up without much feel-good stabilizing love pep talks, he may build a defensive wall around himself, prepared for every tall person bully or not that comes his way to try him like his brother did when they went through teenage syndrome from the age of 13 to 19. He is not likely going to forget what he saw as humiliation from his taller little ones who “looked down” on him when they were being raised by their parents for being too short. And for the rest of his or her life, he or she will always harass those taller than him or her for no reason. I mean, no reason at all. If he turns out to be a public professional like a teacher, labor leader, or even a journalist, God help newsmakers and his colleagues; his rants will always announce his presence.

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If he decides to stabilize and forget some of his past when it’s time to take a wife and takes his friends advice to marry a taller woman so his kids can be tall, that woman may be in hellfire on earth because each time she talks to him and raises her voice, she may become a terrible punch bag who must be cut down to size, and there would not be any stability in that marriage.

Tall-short syndrome breeds inferiority and superiority complexes.

When your kid goes through these challenges unmanaged, the inferiority complex will take charge. And that is about the most dangerous psychological sickness that affects people with deficiencies that were not stabilized when they were kids. No matter what anyone does, he will always remain inferior to the rest and accuse others of feeling pompous. An unstabilized mind will always accuse anyone without his or her deficiencies of being arrogant. Watch out for these things in your kids and work on them even if you are not always around. Pray for them daily.

The only solution to this kind of psychological lifelong crisis is to start working psychologically and spiritually very early in their individual lives by making them run away from the “inferiority complex” if they are too short or embarrassingly tall, like 7 feet plus. Lure such a kid into basketball and watch the glow in his eyes.

If you fail as a parent to do this and rely only on the God factor, you may have unstable minds let loose on the rest of us, running everyone down simply because of their perceived dangerous inadequacies. Inferiority complexes are more dangerous than half education. It kills as much as the superiority complex, which may be manifested by some of those tall ones. But that does not mean that there are no stable, extremely short or tall people whose parents really worked on them using the usual native intelligence available to Africans before the coming of psychology. There are many of them who are not too extrovert or introverted. They are just normal people like the rest of us. If I were you, I would stop praying for schools to open and drive all of them back to the correctional center called a boarding home. Enjoy the noise in the house while it lasts. You will not know the value of that noise from the TV until you visit friends who never had kids and are still expecting.

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Hausa-Fulani is a political coinage created for Arewa numerical strength

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Hausa-Fulani is a political coinage created for Arewa numerical strength

By: Balami Lazarus

For some time I have been reflecting on Hausa-Fulani as a self-created ethnic body that has no place in the history of Nigerian ethnic composition. Because there has never been any ethnic group known as Hausa-Fulani combined. Fulanis are Fulanis, while Hausas are purely Hausas who are of the Maguzawa extraction, the true and original Hausa race.

Without any doubt, the Fulanis are an independent ethnic group with distinct and unique culture and traditions, likewise the Hausas as tribes.

When and how did the phrase “Hausa-Fulani” come into being? The concept is a systematic political merger coined purely for Arewa numerical strength. Besides, it has never been used for economic development and progress in the north, where it is domiciled.

The term has long been in use within the north as a magnet to pull the northern Talakawa-Hausa-Fulani masses together as one and the same ethnic group, just like the political ‘Mu Yar Arewa’ for the benefits of the ruling elites.

I would like to bring to your attention whether or not the concept is a deceptive ethnic coinage limited to and circulating within and around the Hausa land.

A prominent mass communication expert and journalist, Prof. Ahmad Gausu (1993), once said that no true-blooded Fulani man will ever carelessly or jokingly claim and address himself as a Hausa-Fulani man. In his words, “Fulanis are Fulanis, Hausas are Hausas.” These are entirely distinct ethnic groups with different cultures and traditions. The phrase was coined to attract an ethnic and political majority rather than social unity.”

The Hausas have no common heritage with the Fulanis, who speak Fulfulde.

For this reason, there has never been any cultural identity/source material in language, traditions, and/or history to suggest that. Pursuant to this, one can find a wide gap that separates and distinguishes them as different tribes.

The claimants of this deceptive political ethnic phrase are beginning to vehemently reject the usage and are going back to identifying with their original ethnic background. Unlike the Pabir people, who are offshoots of the Bura ethnic nation with no ethnic background, who had humbled themselves in Bura culture and traditions, which gave birth to what is known today as the Bura-Pabir ethnic identity.

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IBUAM: For Aeronautics and Aviation Management

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IBUAM: For Aeronautics and Aviation Management

By: Balami Lazarus

The comments/reactions of some readers to my recent work on Isaac Balami University of Aeronautics and Management (IBUAM) Lagos were a mixed grill. And this made me respond and inform them through this work.

And that the title alone will tell them and other readers that the institution is of university standard allowed by law through the university regulatory body, the National Universities Commission (NUC), to run courses accredited like any other duly approved university academic program.

From the name itself, and if you mentally removed Isaac Balami, what you are left with is University of Aeronautics and Management. IBUAM is Africa’s first private aeronautics university, where young people are intellectually trained in the science of aeronautics engineering, aviation management, and operations to contribute their quota to nation building through the aviation industry, which is more privately driven.

Nigerian School of Aviation Technology Zaria (NSAT) is the only institution in Nigeria established and licensed to train future pilots on the techniques of practical flying. And the school does not have the status of a university, unlike IBUAM.

I have not, and I am yet to set my eyes on any course that has to do with flying offered at IBUAM Lagos. However, my findings revealed that “it does provide pilot training… equipping students with practical skills in aircraft maintenance, repairs, and operations.”

The Nigerian aviation sector is a money-minting industry that has dual economic benefits—air and land; revenues are generated through both of these means.

The establishment of IBUAM came at the right time, for it will produce graduates trained in aeronautics engineering, aviation management, and operations who shall offer their services for both the private and public sectors as aviation experts and administrators.

Balami, a Publisher/Columnist 08036779290

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My Binocular: Federal Orthopedic Hospital Azare achieves first interlocking intramedullary femoral nailing operation

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My Binocular: Federal Orthopedic Hospital Azare achieves first interlocking intramedullary femoral nailing operation

By: Bodunrin Kayode

I got to know Dr Ali Ramat when I was directed to see him by the CMD of the University of Maiduguri Teaching Hospital (UMTH) Professor Ahmed Ahidjo a couple of years ago. He was to analyze the results from a Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) I had undergone for the bottom side of my cerebrospinal region and treat me of the pains. I suddenly developed some serious pains towards the bottom of my back due obviously to a car crash I was involved in about 25 years ago in Niger state where I served as the correspondent of the guardian newspaper. I was treated then in the National Hospital Abuja and told to go home and rest instead of an immediate operation to fix back some of the shifted ribs as the X-ray depicted. 25 years later, possibly due to advancing age, the intervertebral stops down there as I want to address them in layman’s language are screaming pains due to stress whenever I indulge in long distance driving. Dr Ramat looked at the results I brought from Prof Zainab a consultant radiologist who ran the MRI and gave me some drugs which I took and the pain left. In my usual way I never left his office without saying thank you and prying into his young background. That was when he told me about his specialist training in Turkey on spinal matters. I was excited at the zeal of such a young professional who seemed to be moving at a speed far higher than his contemporaries in the same UMTH where he trained.

The University of Maiduguri Teaching Hospital (UMTH) is truly a citadel for the hatching of great minds dominating the medical sector in Nigeria. Within the last decade, it has produced several Chief Medical Directors now managing sister medical institutions in the entire North East region of the country. One of those products of the ” Prof Ahmed Ahidjo mentoring school” is Dr Ali Ramat of the department of orthopedic medicine. Ramat a young enterprising consultant orthopedic and spine surgeon calls Prof Ahidjo his mentor because he was instrumental in the advancement of his career in Turkey where he expanded his orthopedic knowledge by specializing in the critical spinal region. As an orthopedic Doctor, Ramat has treated several bone cases in the UMTH where he became one of the apples of the eye of the CMD Prof Ahidjo such that immediately it was time to set up the National Orthopedic Hospital Azare (NOHA) in Borno State, he was quickly recommended and today he is the first Medical Director of that Hospital. He follows the trail of Professor Chubado Tahir another mentee of the Ahidjo school who is equally managing the National Orthopedic Hospital Jalingo (NOHJ) and many others.

First successful operation in the National Orthopedic Hospital Azare, Borno State

After a memorandum of understanding (MOU) was signed between the federal and state government in May 2025 for the speedy take off of the facility, the newly appointed Medical Director Dr Ali Ramat hit the ground running by assembling his team of 29 doctors some of whom were equally seconded from the UMTH. The State government led by Professor Babagana Zulum had already given out it’s take off facility which is the former general hospital Azare and was very happy about the development. Commissioner of health Prof Baba Mallam Gana was beyond happiness because he is now the special apple of the eyes of Prof Zulum his Principal.

The speed with which the hospital had to take off without any take off grant from its federal benefactors did not affect him yet he started work. He was really in a hurry to stamp his knowledge acquired on the sands of time by ensuring that humanity is served quality dividends in a very short period. And that is what he did on the 6th of January this year which was my birthday. It was a special day in the anals of medicine in North East Nigeria and my special day too. In our chit chat, Ramat announced his first feat in the hospital this way. “Today Tuesday 6th January 2026 the National Orthopaedic Hospital Azare Hawul Borno State successfully conducted its first Orthopaedic Surgery of (interlocking intramedullary femoral nailing). The team was led by the Medical Director Dr. Ali Mohammed Ramat a Consultant Orthopaedic Surgeon. The patient is recuperating ” he said to me in a short, sweet and what I can describe as journalistic way. I am happy for him because he is a very young consultant who still has many years ahead of him before he begins to get tired or depreciate due to the law of diminishing returns which is quite natural with our common humanity. With this feat Ramat has started to write his name in gold in the country. He is also getting ready to move in a meteoric speed to serve humanity in a big way beyond northern Nigeria. Meanwhile as he and his team of about 29 doctors and 16 nurses wait for the usual red tape to be concluded in Abuja for more equipment to be supplied to the facility, Ramat has opened the hospital to everyone who is sick to approach them for treatment. This is a good beginning for orthopedic medication in Borno and Nigeria in general. Congratulations my friend Dr Ramat.

My Binocular: Federal Orthopedic Hospital Azare achieves first interlocking intramedullary femoral nailing operation

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