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Binocular: Battling with the many fights of teenagers during long holidays
Binocular: Battling with the many fights of teenagers during long holidays
By:Bodunrin Kayode
Battling with the many fights of teenagers during the long vacation
It’s a long holiday, and a lot of pressure is on the parents to maintain the stability of the home. Some parents are still battling with under-10 children who are still malleable to discipline, while others are dealing with those between the ages of 13 and 17. These guys between the ages of 13 and 17 are the most difficult because if they have shown most or all the signs of puberty, you may have to apply special communication skills to be able to appeal to their senses. This is the most difficult period of growing up in the history of mankind because some can grow taller than their parents and begin to feel on top of the world, defying the same parents who raised them up. Others remain average, while the rest remain short. But regardless of our religious background, we must remain focused to give them the best even as they prepare to return to school in two weeks.
Expected genetic manifestations that can hunt them for life
Our kids come out with different genetic traces that either hunt them for the rest of their lives or injure them if you do not read between the lines and stabilize them accordingly. Stability in our climate is like medical therapy, and it is mostly done by consistently communicating with them to understand the difference between wrong and right. That means establishing a hierarchy within their ranks where the oldest will supervise the younger ones. Even if the oldest is just four feet tall, he should be the prefect in the house when you people are not around during the long holiday. If the younger ones are far taller than he or she is, then you have a plate full in your house.
In most cases, the tall ones actually begin to bully the shorter ones because of their height and better reach in terms of blows. Stammerers are also mocked by siblings.
I actually interceded in one family recently where a tall junior brother of about 6,2″ at only 17 was always bullying his senior one, who was just 4 feet 5″ at 19. And their resultant fights were always brutal because the most senior of the four kids in the family would try to fight back using weapons like sticks and stones to assert his authority, sometimes wounding their sisters, who always tried to mediate. God help you if you are not around to separate such teenagers when they tango. These people are neither adults nor kids. Just in their own world or adolescence. “Abami edas,” strange beings using Felas language
If that shorter teenager grows up without much feel-good stabilizing love pep talks, he may build a defensive wall around himself, prepared for every tall person bully or not that comes his way to try him like his brother did when they went through teenage syndrome from the age of 13 to 19. He is not likely going to forget what he saw as humiliation from his taller little ones who “looked down” on him when they were being raised by their parents for being too short. And for the rest of his or her life, he or she will always harass those taller than him or her for no reason. I mean, no reason at all. If he turns out to be a public professional like a teacher, labor leader, or even a journalist, God help newsmakers and his colleagues; his rants will always announce his presence.
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If he decides to stabilize and forget some of his past when it’s time to take a wife and takes his friends advice to marry a taller woman so his kids can be tall, that woman may be in hellfire on earth because each time she talks to him and raises her voice, she may become a terrible punch bag who must be cut down to size, and there would not be any stability in that marriage.
Tall-short syndrome breeds inferiority and superiority complexes.
When your kid goes through these challenges unmanaged, the inferiority complex will take charge. And that is about the most dangerous psychological sickness that affects people with deficiencies that were not stabilized when they were kids. No matter what anyone does, he will always remain inferior to the rest and accuse others of feeling pompous. An unstabilized mind will always accuse anyone without his or her deficiencies of being arrogant. Watch out for these things in your kids and work on them even if you are not always around. Pray for them daily.
The only solution to this kind of psychological lifelong crisis is to start working psychologically and spiritually very early in their individual lives by making them run away from the “inferiority complex” if they are too short or embarrassingly tall, like 7 feet plus. Lure such a kid into basketball and watch the glow in his eyes.
If you fail as a parent to do this and rely only on the God factor, you may have unstable minds let loose on the rest of us, running everyone down simply because of their perceived dangerous inadequacies. Inferiority complexes are more dangerous than half education. It kills as much as the superiority complex, which may be manifested by some of those tall ones. But that does not mean that there are no stable, extremely short or tall people whose parents really worked on them using the usual native intelligence available to Africans before the coming of psychology. There are many of them who are not too extrovert or introverted. They are just normal people like the rest of us. If I were you, I would stop praying for schools to open and drive all of them back to the correctional center called a boarding home. Enjoy the noise in the house while it lasts. You will not know the value of that noise from the TV until you visit friends who never had kids and are still expecting.
Binocular: Battling with the many fights of teenagers during long holidays
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Dadong: A Balanced Voice From Ungwan Rukuba
Dadong: A Balanced Voice From Ungwan Rukuba
By: Balami Lazarus
What does it take to be a public mouthpiece? That was the question I asked Comrade Dadong Solomon Antibas. My chats with him were a balanced interface. The answers can be found in the write-up for your review.
Democracy like ours has brought to the limelight public mouthpiece voices; some are weak and political, while others are strong, progressive, constructive, and fearless, demanding progress, growth, and development as dividends of good governance in a peaceful atmosphere.
Governments created by democratic processes are never left alone without citizens asking questions and demanding dividends of democracy for their community and the country at large.
Comrade Dadong Solomon Antibas is a Nigerian, law-abiding citizen. Antibas, a security expert and popular public mouthpiece on the Jos Plateau, has earned the confidence of the people of his community, Ungwan Rukuba, and most parts of the state over the years. For his community, he is their immediate mouthpiece who has been speaking on their plights, calling the attention of the government under the leadership of Governor Caleb Manasseh Mutfwang to do the needful.
Personality like Solomon Antibas’ public impression of him by some citizens of the state is all about seeking relevance and political appointments. “I have no interest whatsoever in any political appointment. My sincere concern for my dear country and my state, Plateau, is peace, progress, growth, and development for future generations.”
Nigerians should begin to speak out on good governance at all levels. Citizens are also responsible for failing to hold them accountable and demand good governance in terms of security, social amenities, and infrastructure.
Ungwan Rukuba is one of the wards in the Jos North Local Government Area. It is an integral part of the city center. Unfortunately, the peaceful Ungwan Rukuba became a flashpoint. The terrorist attack of March 29th, 2026, has put a scar of insecurity on the area.
On insecurity, he said that Mr. President Ahmed Bola Tinubu has failed Nigerians woefully. “Insecurity is a bone of contention. The federal government must take decisive measures on the insecurity challenges bedeviling the nation.”
My findings on Comrade Dadong Antibas revealed that he is not a public affairs commentator or an analyst but a progressive and active public mouthpiece, a voice of the voiceless.
For some, Dadong is attacking the government under the leadership of Governor Mutfwang. ” Is speaking the minds of citizens on bad governance and holding the government of Governor Caleb Manasseh Mutfwang a crime”?
Despite threats on Solomon Dadong, they have not deterred him from speaking for and on behalf of other citizens living in the state. “I have no other way to hold the government accountable than to publicly speak and constructively criticize the leadership’s voicing out feelings and lots of the people…In democracy, governments are made by the people, and as such, they must provide for the collective needs of the masses who voted them in.”
Comrade Antibas is one among the few indigenous people of Plateau who are outspoken and speak with passion and a patriotic mind for his state and Nigeria. “I will live and die in Nigeria speaking, advocating, demanding, and/or holding both federal and state governments accountable for good governance.”
Balami, Publisher/Columnist, 08036779290
Dadong: A Balanced Voice From Ungwan Rukuba
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Facts for Understanding Capital Market Investment
Facts for Understanding Capital Market Investment
By: Balami Lazarus
I grew up in an academic environment where the language is the same: study well, have good grades and be what you desire to be in the future through academic discipline and training.
Many of my contemporaries and I were not spoken to in the language of trade and commerce. But here are some of us as businessmen, entrepreneurs, investors and in other business enterprises far from the academic language we were bred with.
There has never been a market like the capital market the world over where trade per day runs into billions of cash. While market capitalisation is in trillions. The case of the Nigerian Stock Exchange (NSE), now Nigerian Exchange Group, with its trade symbol (NGX) on the floor, is a good example.
Investing in the capital market is profitable for traders and short- and long-term investors. But understanding the market requires some basic facts, which are cash, knowledge, discipline and patience, important for investors to appreciate the market.
Recently a member of my social group came to me to seek my advice on what it takes to invest in the equity market (stock exchange). I was very candid with the fellow, informing him that he needs cash, knowledge, discipline and patience to invest in the capital market after having defined his position as an investor.
First an investor needs cash in his possession set aside to invest in the capital market, the gateway into the market. You can have the other three, but without cash you are not yet an investor.
Lack of knowledge about a business or investments has made so many persons lose money worth millions.
This is typical with good number of Nigerians who attempted to start a business or invest in some going concerns without basic knowledge and understanding of the intricacies of these investments or businesses.
The information and technology age has
made acquiring knowledge very simple; therefore, understanding the stock market is easy these days.
Basically, the capital market depends on and responds to information, government policies, and economic and political happenings/events within and without, which most often determines the graphic movements of the primary market deals on the floor. ‘Bullish’ or ‘bearish’ simply means the plus or minus of the day’s transactions.
The need for monitoring of the market is important for traders and short-term investors. However, with knowledge and careful monitoring of the market, it is a suitable place for short-term gains for investors with multiple numbers of holdings in blue-chip companies like Dangote Cement, Bau Foods, Nestle, Aradel, Okumu Oil Palm, Zenith Bank, Guaranty Trust Bank and others. But for long-term investors, whether the market is bullish or bearish, his investment portfolio is for future use.
Investments like those of the capital market, discipline and being committed are necessary to build a strong, high-quality, profitable portfolio of a large number of holdings of units spread over listed companies of the stock exchange that come with capital appreciation and dividends. This is important, especially for long-term investors.
And the turn key in this type of investment is patience. Generally investments need patience for them to mature for harvest.
In stock market investment, patience plays a vital role in this business. Therefore, for an investor who lacks patience, the capital market is not a tuft for him and shall never be.
To navigate through this market, investors must at all times apply this formula and have it printed on their hearts. Cash = stock units over time + patience = capital apreciation/dividends.
Today there are changes in the exchange which have improved trading. The time of trade has been extended to transactions and payments (T+1). Other electronic applications to aid and encourage investors in the capital market in an attempt to boost the Nigerian economy.
Balami, Publisher/ Columnist 08036779290
Facts for Understanding Capital Market Investment
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The ‘Hyenas’ and The Fear of Radical Changes
The ‘Hyenas’ and The Fear of Radical Changes
By: Balami Lazarus
Nigeria’s persistent security challenges, governance shortcomings, and societal stagnation were discoursed in a recent controversial work titled “Radical Approach: Ways of Ending the Menace of Insecurity in Nigeria,” which has sparked vehement reactions. These responses, saturated with insults and threats, underscore not only the resistance to transformative ideas but also reveal deeper cultural and psychological barriers inhibiting national progress.
Hyenas occupy a complex place symbolically and ecologically. Known for their powerful jaws capable of crushing bone and their fearsome appearance, hyenas possess attributes of strength and resilience. Ironically, the very qualities that should have crowned them kings of the jungle remain unrealized due to internal flaws—excessive fear and greed. This metaphor resonates profoundly with the Nigerian socio-political landscape. Many citizens and leaders embody these counterproductive traits, which sabotage collective progress. The ‘hyenas’ here are those resistant individuals who react aggressively to change, fearful of losing entrenched privileges or comfortable mediocrity.
Despite their natural capacities, hyenas do not kill their prey outright but feed until the victim is entirely consumed, a parallel to how corruption, insecurity, and dysfunctional governance gradually erode Nigeria’s potential. Nevertheless, because of this fear and greed, the true power of the hyenas remains dormant. Similarly, Nigerians possess enormous potential—humans and resources alike—but systemic fear of radical transformation prevents the nation from ascending to greatness.
Resistance to radical change is hardly unique to Nigeria; however, the scale and intensity of opposition here are particularly pronounced. The author of the initial work rightly posits that fundamental restructuring or amicable separation (balkanization) may be necessary to ensure peaceful coexistence among Nigeria’s diverse ethnic and regional groups. While this proposition unsettles many, it is grounded in historical precedents where developing nations embraced bold reforms, coupled with decisive policies and enforcement mechanisms, to dismantle corruption and oppression effectively.
For example, South Korea’s transformative journey from a war-ravaged country to a technological powerhouse was marked by radical government-led reforms, strict anti-corruption measures, and an unyielding commitment to national goals. Similarly, post-apartheid South Africa undertook sweeping constitutional and institutional reforms to redress systemic inequalities. These examples suggest that change without fear, and with a clear vision, is achievable. In Nigeria’s case, however, political leaders often prioritize personal gain over national interest, shielding corrupt practices from scrutiny and accountability—a scenario that foreign nationals sometimes benefit from more than average Nigerians.
Hence, it is not just a question of reform but an urgent call for a radical overhaul of the political, economic, and security frameworks—an overhaul that will inevitably provoke discomfort among the ‘hyenas’ who thrive on the status quo. Their hostility reflects a deeper anxiety about losing undue influence rather than genuine concern for national welfare.
Those who dare to voice radical solutions face fierce backlash. The insults, threats, and online harassment directed at the author of “Radical Approach” epitomize the perils confronting reformists. Such antagonism stems from a culture where free expression is often conflated with subversion and where critical voices are silenced through intimidation rather than engaged with constructively. This atmosphere breeds cynicism and self-censorship, retarding public discourse essential for democracy and progress.
The paradox lies in the fact that while politicians and vested interests propagate falsehoods to maintain their grip, genuine advocates of change are vilified. This creates a toxic environment where truth-tellers face social ostracism, leaving the masses bewildered about whom to trust. The condemnation of the author’s suggestion to either restructure or separate the country illustrates how deeply sensitive and contested the issue of national unity is—yet it also reveals the urgency to address unresolved grievances before they escalate into greater conflict.
It is crucial to emphasize that opinions, especially those anchored in personal conviction and aimed at national betterment, deserve respect and consideration, even if controversial. Democratic societies thrive on diverse viewpoints and vigorous debate. The author’s claim to persist as a ‘honey badger’—an animal known for fearless tenacity—symbolizes the courage required to confront entrenched systems and societal fears.
Change is seldom comfortable; it disrupts established norms and compels individuals to rethink identities and power structures. But without this discomfort, stagnation ensues, and nations risk eventual decline or disintegration. In Nigeria’s context, the failure to act decisively invites greater insecurity, economic hardship, and social unrest, ultimately threatening the very fabric of the nation.
To overcome the paralysis induced by fear and entrenched interests, Nigerians must collectively embrace the concept of radical but non-violent reform. The analogy of hyenas vividly encapsulates the paradox of strength hindered by fear and selfishness—a situation familiar to Nigeria today. The vehement backlash against radical proposals for restructuring or separation signals a collective unease but also highlights the necessity for bold action. History teaches us that radical change, enforced with fairness and resolve, is often the catalyst for national rebirth.
Nigeria stands at a crossroads. Will it continue to be prey to internal fears and greed, or will it muster the courage to embrace transformative ideas, no matter how uncomfortable they may seem? Advocates like the author of “Radical Approach” bear the burden and honor of challenging the status quo. Their persistence embodies hope that someday, rationality and justice will prevail over hostility and inertia.
In this pursuit, Nigerians must shed the fearful mindset that binds them and instead harness their inherent strengths—diversity, resilience, and youthful energy—to reclaim their destiny. Only then can the nation finally silence the cacophony of ‘hyenas’ and evolve into a stable, prosperous democracy worthy of its vast potential.
Balami, Publisher/Columnist 08036779290
The ‘Hyenas’ and The Fear of Radical Changes
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