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Binocular: Battling with the many fights of teenagers during long holidays

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By:Bodunrin Kayode

Battling with the many fights of teenagers during the long vacation

It’s a long holiday, and a lot of pressure is on the parents to maintain the stability of the home. Some parents are still battling with under-10 children who are still malleable to discipline, while others are dealing with those between the ages of 13 and 17. These guys between the ages of 13 and 17 are the most difficult because if they have shown most or all the signs of puberty, you may have to apply special communication skills to be able to appeal to their senses. This is the most difficult period of growing up in the history of mankind because some can grow taller than their parents and begin to feel on top of the world, defying the same parents who raised them up. Others remain average, while the rest remain short. But regardless of our religious background, we must remain focused to give them the best even as they prepare to return to school in two weeks.

Expected genetic manifestations that can hunt them for life

Our kids come out with different genetic traces that either hunt them for the rest of their lives or injure them if you do not read between the lines and stabilize them accordingly. Stability in our climate is like medical therapy, and it is mostly done by consistently communicating with them to understand the difference between wrong and right. That means establishing a hierarchy within their ranks where the oldest will supervise the younger ones. Even if the oldest is just four feet tall, he should be the prefect in the house when you people are not around during the long holiday. If the younger ones are far taller than he or she is, then you have a plate full in your house.

In most cases, the tall ones actually begin to bully the shorter ones because of their height and better reach in terms of blows. Stammerers are also mocked by siblings.

I actually interceded in one family recently where a tall junior brother of about 6,2″ at only 17 was always bullying his senior one, who was just 4 feet 5″ at 19. And their resultant fights were always brutal because the most senior of the four kids in the family would try to fight back using weapons like sticks and stones to assert his authority, sometimes wounding their sisters, who always tried to mediate. God help you if you are not around to separate such teenagers when they tango. These people are neither adults nor kids. Just in their own world or adolescence. “Abami edas,” strange beings using Felas language

If that shorter teenager grows up without much feel-good stabilizing love pep talks, he may build a defensive wall around himself, prepared for every tall person bully or not that comes his way to try him like his brother did when they went through teenage syndrome from the age of 13 to 19. He is not likely going to forget what he saw as humiliation from his taller little ones who “looked down” on him when they were being raised by their parents for being too short. And for the rest of his or her life, he or she will always harass those taller than him or her for no reason. I mean, no reason at all. If he turns out to be a public professional like a teacher, labor leader, or even a journalist, God help newsmakers and his colleagues; his rants will always announce his presence.

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If he decides to stabilize and forget some of his past when it’s time to take a wife and takes his friends advice to marry a taller woman so his kids can be tall, that woman may be in hellfire on earth because each time she talks to him and raises her voice, she may become a terrible punch bag who must be cut down to size, and there would not be any stability in that marriage.

Tall-short syndrome breeds inferiority and superiority complexes.

When your kid goes through these challenges unmanaged, the inferiority complex will take charge. And that is about the most dangerous psychological sickness that affects people with deficiencies that were not stabilized when they were kids. No matter what anyone does, he will always remain inferior to the rest and accuse others of feeling pompous. An unstabilized mind will always accuse anyone without his or her deficiencies of being arrogant. Watch out for these things in your kids and work on them even if you are not always around. Pray for them daily.

The only solution to this kind of psychological lifelong crisis is to start working psychologically and spiritually very early in their individual lives by making them run away from the “inferiority complex” if they are too short or embarrassingly tall, like 7 feet plus. Lure such a kid into basketball and watch the glow in his eyes.

If you fail as a parent to do this and rely only on the God factor, you may have unstable minds let loose on the rest of us, running everyone down simply because of their perceived dangerous inadequacies. Inferiority complexes are more dangerous than half education. It kills as much as the superiority complex, which may be manifested by some of those tall ones. But that does not mean that there are no stable, extremely short or tall people whose parents really worked on them using the usual native intelligence available to Africans before the coming of psychology. There are many of them who are not too extrovert or introverted. They are just normal people like the rest of us. If I were you, I would stop praying for schools to open and drive all of them back to the correctional center called a boarding home. Enjoy the noise in the house while it lasts. You will not know the value of that noise from the TV until you visit friends who never had kids and are still expecting.

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NSE: Capital Market Investment for Dividend and Capital Appreciation 

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NSE: Capital Market Investment for Dividend and Capital Appreciation 

By: Balami Lazarus 

The piece is written with an understanding of the capital market, the Nigerian Stock Exchange and the Nigerian Group Exchange (NGX).  I am a part owner of some listed companies, a bona fide shareholder, and a member of the Independent Shareholders Association of Nigeria (ISAN). Therefore, I believe that this will open the eyes of someone out there to this profitable and protected business investment through the laws, rules, and regulations under the watch of the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) of Nigeria. 

Recently, my friend and I were listening to the Network News on NTA at 9 a.m. when business news came up on the capital market of the Nigerian Stock Exchange. My friend was not following the simple breakdown of the transactions known as deals, which quickly informed me he was a novice in the activities of the capital market, its transactions, and the lush investment opportunities that abound therein. 

However, students of business and financial management are aware of shares, common stocks, bonds, and other securities instruments available on the floor of the capital market for investors to take positions in the shares of the companies listed for daily trading at the stock exchange market. To my knowledge, some people are ignorant of the investment windows in the stock market and how they are done and carried out, where your money, time, and patience work in your favor depending on how you position yourself in the market as either a long-term, mid-term, or short-term investor. 

There are differences between capital markets and financial institutions. Financial institutions are the banks, while capital markets are the stock exchange floors where sellers and buyers transactions are expressly carried out on their behalf by brokers through securities firms, provided that they are mandated to do so by their clients, who are the investors. 

Common stocks have been the backbone of the capital market. Owership of common shares by individuals, directly or indirectly, has built individual wealth, which has helped in the expansion of the Nigerian Business Environment (NBE)..     

Therefore, investment in the capital market is safe and secure because investors are highly protected by the laws of the land. Interestingly, as a shareholder, you are a part owner of the company. “When you invest in common stock of a company, you become a part owner of the company.” This makes you a direct owner of a portion, with the privileges thereof provided by law.

Balami, a Publisher/Columnist: 08036779290

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Presidency: Why Tinubu and Kashim Shettima’s partnership will continue beyond 2027

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Presidency: Why Tinubu and Kashim Shettima’s partnership will continue beyond 2027

Dr. James BWALA

Some politicians and their calculations of events, incidents, and expectations leading to the 2027 presidential elections have so far exposed their wicked agenda against the Tinubu-Shettima partnership and the recreation of good governance in Nigeria. History has recorded beautiful scenarios that this administration has brought to play in changing the old narratives of governance in Nigeria. And we have seen these numerous plays, from the dollar narratives to market trading and the ideas of price control. Tinubu and Shettima’s table of governance has been full of ideas, and the partnerships have been supportive of mutual respect. But evil hunters in the political domain would always prefer the idea of scattering the table to put leaders afar just to gain their mutually conceived and derailing ideas into play.

It is laughable to compare reasons for Tinubu’s needs as Governor of Lagos State when he replaced Kofoworola Bucknor as Deputy Governor with Femi Pedro in 2002, who served with him until 2007. That was Lagos, and this is Nigeria, for which the ground and outlook are miles apart and the North is not against itself. For sometimes, some politicians in the game of Troy have fashioned for themselves a belief on the contrary to Mr. President’s thinking towards achieving many goals he had been working alongside his vice president to achieve and make history not only for Nigeria but also for themselves.

Never in the history of Nigeria have the two first families been seen coming together from the days of struggling to power to governance, as demonstrated by the Tinubu and the Shettima families. Long before now, the two leaders had built a relationship of trust and respect that fortified their wine of understanding despite forces from within and outside the party they are leading today. The calls from such separatists did not start today, and nothing they do can amount to this administration losing focus on giving over two hundred million Nigerians the desired dividends of democracy, and neither Tinubu nor Kashim Shettima are losing focus on their promises to Nigeria.

The idea they are circulating on social media for 2027 and the possibility of the vice president being replaced by Kwankwaso from the Northwest by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu was a fabrication of their own imagination. Who are those powerful people around Tinubu who got his mind on what they were trying to sell on social media? And what also do they know about the discussions Tinubu and Kashim Shettima are having when they meet behind closed doors to share their views on governance? 

The NNPP presidential aspirant, Engr. Rabiu Musa Kwankwaso, has made it crystal clear during his campaign that he cannot be VP to anyone given his pedigree and belief in the political circle, even at a time when he has a better opportunity to bargain with the APC. Despite the outcome of the 2023 general election and the crowd he seemed to have pulled for the NNPP, the Ganduje factor still speaks loud even as of today. And politics in Kano has many faces, which has recorded a time when great politicians have failed to deliver even the Almighty Kwankwasiya movement. As such, Kwankwaso, even though he is not speaking publicly, cannot have an effect on the Tinubu and Kashim Shettima relationship and partnership in leading Nigeria to the Promise Land.

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I believe these mischief makers are already putting Tinubu and Kashim Shettima’s administration on trial, as they did promise to do so both in court and in public opinion. The court case that the former governor of Kano State and National Chairman of the APC is having has nothing to do with the presidency and the administration of Tinubu and Kashim Shettima except that Ganduje belongs to the APC family and holds a vintage position in the party. These criminals in political circles are trying to pin the case on the party or the presidency to the effect that they are claiming that the move to dethrone Ganduje was equally a move to replace Kashim Shettima as VP in 2027.

The 2027 presidential election will come and go like any other election before it, and we shall be witnesses to the fact of history that the Tinubu and Kashim Shettima administration have recorded, which shall speak for them in the deciding factor. No one, either in person or group, can change the destiny of Tinubu’s golden boy.

** James BWALA, PhD writes from Abuja

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Borno: Why would an NGO sponsor a fire outbreak in IDP camps?

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Borno: Why would an NGO sponsor a fire outbreak in IDP camps?

By: Dr. James BWALA

Although the commissioner for information in Borno State refused to mention in his statement those NGOs trying to malign the Zulum administration’s efforts towards the internally displaced people, IDP, a video in circulation with the confession of one of the arrested suspects alleges that an international INGO with the name ALIMA and others are behind the numerous fire outbreaks being experienced at various IDP camps across the state lately. 

It could be recalled that on one of his outings, to support the IDPs in Borno, the governor, Professor Babagana Umara Zulum, received hurtful news of such experiences that made him lose it. But I ask again: why would an NGO sponsor a fire outbreak in IDP camps? A statement reads:

PUBLIC NOTICE ON SUSPECTED CASES OF FIRE INCIDENCES IN IDP CAMPS IN BORNO STATE 

The Borno State Government has received situation reports (SITREPs) from reliable sources regarding suspected cases of fire outbreaks in some IDP camps within the state. This recent rise in the frequency of infernos in IDP camps has been a matter of concern, and all hands are on deck to forestall any further occurrence of fire outbreaks in the state. The government has been investigating the occurrence of the infernos on a case-by-case basis, with a view to establishing the remote and extant causes and developing a strategy to stem future occurrences.

On March 29, 2024, the Ministry of Information and Internal Security received a report in which a suspect admitted that he and his “co-conspirators” were “hired” by some NGOs (names withheld) to set IDP camps on fire. This matter is under investigation, and further necessary action shall only be taken on the basis of the outcome of the investigation. Those arrested are in detention undergoing intensive interrogation, while the NGOs who were pinpointed in the alleged violent practice have been summoned for preliminary interrogation.

The government assures members of the public that this matter will receive appropriate and expedited attention, and any culprit will be dealt with according to the law. 

Meanwhile, members of the public are urged to be calm, peaceful, and law-abiding. Any breach of security should be reported to the nearest law enforcement agency or traditional rulers for transmission to the relevant authority.

*Announcer*

Prof. Usman Tar,

Honourable Commissioner, 

Ministry of Information and Internal Security, Borno State

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I have worked in a camp while working with some INGOs in Maiduguri, sometimes before returning to the field as a journalist. I can say without mincing words that some INGOs can do everything possible to keep their jobs. However, I am pained by such a move at the detriment of the efforts and support of the people of Borno State and Governor Babagana Umara Zulum. If there are such NGOs, they must be exposed! 

The government of Borno State and its resilient people have suffered enough in the last 13 years of insurgency. It is not a palatable experience for the governor to be moving from one point to another, trying to see that his people are met with the needed support and shelter after having fled their homes in the wake of the death harvest by agents of darkness. Governor Zulum has become a touring governor on mines fields with sweat-sucked clothes, trying to reach out to the needy across the landmines field. As such, he does not deserve this sabotaging move by the organization, which should also come to help as well.

The suspect, who made mention of the names of INGOs sponsoring the outbreak of fire in IDP, should be thoroughly investigated because some are also alleging that he could have actually been under duress to mention the names of some organization as a result of the beating he received. If at all that was the case, these partners alledgedly in crime can be acquitted; otherwise, they actually should not have a place to operate in the state or anywhere else on Nigeria’s soil because the need for them is to help our people and not to add salt to injury in a place where deaths mounted.

James BWALA, PhD, writes from Abuja.

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