PARENTS : Love , Protection and Social Disorder

PARENTS : Love , Protection and Social Disorder

By: Balami Lazarus

Little is known of a small town called Hungerford in the outskirt of London before 1987. What happen was caused by one Michael Ryan , it was the biggest human crime in the history of crimes in England. Ryan went on a killing spree , killing 16 people in about two hours including his parents. Let me keep you in suspense for a while.

Let me here acknowledged parents who had given their children time and space to grow and interact with their peers and contemporaries in a given community guided by discipline and punishment age they are found wanting.

Those of us that were privileged to be brought up by such parents who allowed us to interact and socialized with other classes of children of our age group. This has helped us in no small measure to having good street wise and knowledge, which no home or school will give you. 

What informed this write up was my recent interactions with some parents on how some of these parents bring up their children under the condition of over protection in the name of love and care in a confined family environment. 

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Children brought up in an open home and environment are wiser,  tougher and better exposed with street knowledge. These children are conversant with their immediate environment, street, land Marks , elders and other personalities in the community where they live. On like the children brought up in room temperature and within their compound, these children lack proper understanding of their own community. 

They environmentally bankrupt lacking social interaction and knowledge of such community they live in, in fact, they tend to developed social disorder because of their parental overprotection and strictness in the name of love. That was the clear case of Michael Ryan of Hungerford. Most children of such background are found to be involved in drugs, Yahoo and other social vises. Funny enough looking at these children from the unset you will lease expected that they can be engaged in such crimes and social eel’s.

Findings by social psychologist has it that most of these children grow with social disorder and having the personality of fear, timidity and lack confidence. And grow with such traits in them. They are mostly dependent and fall back to their parents for matters they expected to handle or solve. While on the other divide their contemporary had better understanding on how to go about it. 

Take the case of a true Mother and Father Association of Italy  known as (Mafia) . A Mafia family always allow their children to have enough street knowledge of their community or taken to a hard far away uncle from his comfort zone these are applicable to all those that came from the clan in respect of class. All is an attempt to exposed such a child to having adequate street knowledge which further his understanding of his locality making him feel the reality of life challenges. 

In the old wild wild west a smart cowboy knows when to enter a town and when to leave, such cowboy must have a good gun with a fast draw skills, fast horse all these are knowledge taught to cowboys in his community and on the street. 

* Balami, Publisher/ Columnist

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PARENTS : Love , Protection and Social Disorder